When it comes to working with our teen girls, it’s all about balance. Balancing the fact that they want to be adults and are maturing in a lot of ways, and that they are still girls who need chances to choose, learn, and be silly. Take a look at what teen girls need and think about how you can balance this in your troop.
Teen girl want you to:
- Accept them for who they are.
- Respect their need for space.
- Respect their need for privacy.
- Accept their right to their own opinion.
- Accept their right to have a say.
- Understand that their “self” as an individual is not the same as their “self” when part of a group.
Teen girls want:
- Opportunities to learn skills – anything that increases their sense of mastery, proficiency, or the ability to “hold their own” in the adult world.
- Activities that are social.
- Activities that are separate for “little girls” – even teens who like working with younger girls need time with their peers.
- Activities that allow them to demonstrate their know-how.
- Opportunities to joke around with an admired adult (as long as the fun is not at their expense).
- Food.
- A sense of choice.
- A chance to save face.
- A chance to contribute.
- Fair feedback – without humiliation or embarrassment.
- Reassurance without feeling childish.
- Milestones and privileges that come with being older.
During confrontations, teen girls want:
- A chance to talk without interruption.
- To feel heard, that their position was truly considered.
- To avoid “traps” and “bait”.
- To prove that they have control over themselves, that you can’t make them.
- Opportunities to “repair” mistakes.
What tips and tactics have you tried that help teen girls thrive?