Catch your Girl Scout doing something awesome. Give praise, recognition, a special privilege, or increased responsibility for a job well done. Emphasize the good choices they make, not the bad.

Take their ideas, emotions, and feelings seriously. Don’t belittle them by saying, “you’ll grow out of it,” or “it’s not as bad as you think.”

Define limits and rules clearly and enforce them. But do allow leeway for girls within these limits. Let them take the lead whenever possible.

Be a good role model. Let girls know that you feel good about yourself. Also let them see that you too can make mistakes and learn from them.

Teach girls how to deal with time and money. Help them set reachable goals so they can achieve success.

Help girls develop acceptance toward those with different values, backgrounds, and norms. Point out other people’s strengths.

Give girls responsibility. They will feel useful and valued.

Be available. Give support when girls need it.

Show them that what they do is important to you. Talk to them about their activities and interests. If you see them at school events or performances, make a point of saying hello and commenting about their success.

Spend time together. Participate in group activities.

Discuss problems without placing blame or commenting on a girl’s character. If girls know there is a problem but don’t feel attached, they are more likely to help look for a solution.

Use phrases that build self esteem, such as “thank you for helping” or “that’s a good idea!” Avoid phrases that hurt self esteem such as “How many times have I told you?”

Show how much you care about them. Give them high-fives and have crazy handshakes. Tell them they are terrific and that you care about them.